(FWIW, studies suggest that there’s good reason to get it on as soon as possible if you want to cash in on awesome honeymoon-phase sex.)Like we said, there’s no “right” time; deciding when you’re ready to have sex with someone is really a different-strokes-for-different-folks kind of thing.But what leads couples to hit the sheets at any given moment in their relationship? To get a better idea, we asked women in long-term relationships to divulge how quickly they had sex with their significant others.They split 64 couples, with various sexual frequencies, into two groups.They asked Group A to keep their sex lives the same, and Group B to have twice as much sex as they usually did.Imagine you’re on the best date of your life with the person you suspect is The One.The sexual chemistry is palpable, but you’re looking for a long-term thing — not just a hookup.Should you jump into bed with him or her as soon as you’re alone?Or should you wait until you’ve gone out on a few more dates before sleeping together?
“Other people have other priorities, so sex isn’t on the top of their list, so they are having it less.”The primary problem for many couples is not the frequency of sex, but how they talk about it, according to Heidi Crockett, a licensed psychotherapist in Florida and an (AASECT) American Association of Sexuality educators, counselors and therapists, certified sex therapist."If both people in the couple have a general desire to want to please their partner and participate in the relationship and talk about things openly, usually something can be negotiated that can satisfy both people," Crockett said.
When a woman complains to her friends that she’s having a rough patch with her boyfriend, the first thing they’ll ask is if you’re still having sex, and how often.
And if you’re talking to the absolute wrong friend—like Jenna who has sex five nights a week with her banker boyfriend, who claims to have a job (in PR) but also has a flexible enough schedule to attend regular 4 p.m.
More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus.
That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.