Avery Utz, a high school senior in Round Rock, TX, said the following, “I have found that relationships during high school are very trivial, unromantic and seemingly pointless, as in they have no goal."You just said that we ought to date a lot of people to learn and grow and all that stuff, but I really disagree," said a woman seated in the first row at one of my seminars. If I could have screamed louder without breaking the microphone, I would have. I date to find a mate."I did not know any of the facts of her life. You need more than anyone to go out with many different kinds of men for a number of reasons. One of the first steps people need is to be cured of the thinking that the purpose of dating is to find a marriage partner. But here is what I'm trying to say: Dating is as much about learning what you need and want, and how you need to grow and change, as it is about finding the "right" person. Tiger Woods grew up with the goal of winning more major golf tournaments than anyone in history. What if Tiger had said early on, "I will not play in any other tournament than the U. Or what if a medical student said, "I will only take the ultimate job in my life's career?Finding the one person whom we will share our whole life with as one flesh.That doesn't mean you should marry the first person you date.Maybe that is what she meant, I thought."I don't have time to waste on dating someone whom I couldn't see myself marrying. See dating as a wonderful time to find out about other people and what they are like.If he doesn't have the potential for a serious relationship that could lead to marriage, I don't want to go out with him.""What's your hurry? The recently divorced woman at my seminar needed to date a lot of men to find out how "off" she was in her ability to see what is good and to pick a good man.""Well, I'm forty–two, I've been married once before, and I want to be married again. Without dating for the sake of learning, she would not do that.
That's because much of dating is really more situational and cultural than it is principle-based.But that doesn't mean that it doesn't operate on foundation principles.God is a God who runs the world on principles and dating is grounded on very strong Biblical principles that help us do it in a way that honors God. utm_medium=api&utm_source=blog_book][img]https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1422061429l/8682351.jpg[/img][/url] [url=https:// Christian dating has been a controversial topic for many over recent years. Is it right to promote Christian dating in such a way anyway? What are the right parameters to use in identifying potential matches?